I had an intesting experience with the fairer sex saturday night that i felt like a sharing with the world, if only to get some sort of context or explanation to the situation. Before you immediately abort reading, there is nothing vulgar or disgusting in the retelling of events.
I met a girl, we'll call her Michelle*, at a party on Saturday. I spent the next hour playing coy with this blonde vixen and actually enjoying the conversation with her (while not a first, surprising nonetheless).
I work at the Edgewater hotel and had shift to set up an event at 2:30 a.m. I left Michelle and told her I'd call after I left work. By about 4;30 i had called twice to reassure her that I was in fact headed over to where she was staying. I took a Badger cab to Lathrop with two random dudes. The cab driver was from the Ukraine.
Cabbie: I hate getting pulled over by these kops here in America. I mean, c'mon I don't have a record...
Me: At least not here,
Cabbie: Good point.
Finally, I arrived at her place and went up. She said she was from out of town, Minnesota actually, and was staying at a friend's place. I immediately noticed two girls sprawled out in the living room and started to ponder my sleeping arrangements. I follow her to a room that her friend said she could use for the night. I love sympathetic friends.
Now, we start hooking up and the bomb gets dropped. "I'm a virgin.'
Huh? My immediate response is near shock. They still make you? Besides that, I was very confused that a girl from out-of-town would ask me to meet up with her later, wait til four in the morning for me to arrive and assume that I only came over for chatting.
Is it too far off-base to tell a guy that you don't do that? Or is it forward, presumptious and kind of an asshole thing to request? Seriously virgins, don't front.
*not real name
P.S. Some kind of countdown on the Famous Stars and Straps website; ends later tonight so I'll update what's dropping on the website if anything.
-Damon
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well, if I were that girl, I probably wouldn't have said anything either. If I was into a guy that I had just met and he was obviously into me, I think it would be really awkward to squeeze "oh ps, let's not have sex." Girls like to think,even if it's seldom the case, that sex isn't always the goal; naive, I know. I'm sorry that you were let down, but at least you know she's probably clean! Also, I hope this wasn't an inappropriate comment.
no not at all; any valid response from the female perspective is more than welcome and above all appreciated!
Yeah, the status of her virginity isn't something girls usually pop into the conversation. I agree with Robin. Sometimes we like to think that it was our sparkling personality that attracted you. She definately sent the wrong message, so your assumptions weren't really off base. But, looking at her side, since she is a virgin she might not have known how to handle the situation.
She is either really dumb and sheltered, or a really big tease. If she didn't want you to come over with expectations, she should have waited and hung out with you the next day and not invited you over at four in the morning when you knew you were going to be staying over.
I understand why she left out that important piece of information though. You can't bring something like that up without being really awkward about it.
Just out of curiosity, how did you handle it? Did you leave or stay and hang out with her?
It's interesting that only females have commented so far. Maybe us men want to maintain our "good image"!
I think if some girl invited me over at 4am in the morning - or invited me knowing that's when I would be coming over - then I would assume only one activity would take place. Perhaps to some varying degree - ? - but... you can have lunch for conversation. You can have coffee for conversation. 4am is for something else, and she should have known.
Good comments all around;
to answer nikki, I actually ended up staying up and making her laugh for a few hours; she gave me a ride home at 7 and kissed me goodbye; she was about as sweet as one would expect from a sexually inexperienced young adult.
here's a similar experience that you may find rectifying:
http://tinyurl.com/yu56uf
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